When you are ready you will know and when you know you know. Don’t question your decisions, they are yours to make, never second guess your choices, they are yours to cherry-pick and most importantly never allow someone to down play your choices and decisions.
Give yourself time, you deserve that. Don’t be under pressure to please new people around you because it will be harder for you to maintain.
Do what makes you happy…cry if you have to…read if you have to…laugh if you have to…travel if you have to…rest if you have to…be alone and gather your thoughts if you have to. This might be one of the hardest things you will have to do but never be under pressure to have to explain yourself, if they don’t understand you… it’s ok, they will adjust. Be still and comfortable in your silence.
Through it all….be yourself and everything else will…
Well who cares about everything else just be happy…
So the years have passed by and I am considered an adult, I can vote, not that it would make a huge difference really despite the “your vote counts,” I can drink legally not that this changes any and or everything, I can buy cigarettes not that puffing and passing intrigues me the slightest bit.
I am now at that age where God forbid, I act or say something immature my dearest mother will be like “at your age I was married, had 2 children and pregnant with the 3rd one” like it’s ever that serious really. Daily I am faced with making decisions and choices that will affect the rest of my life. The one choice I will make today will contribute to the bigger picture but I have to make them.
I wish I could stay younger and make the most of everyday but well this is the road we journey to the grave. Everyone has expectations of you and it’s not easy to live up to everyone’s expectations, in fact half the time you fail to live up to people’s expectations because they set the bar up too high. Some people will not set it up high because they want the best for you but because they want to live their lives through you and well for some because they are not setting them up for themselves so they will try and make it hard for you. But I have just one expectation of myself, which is to be better than I was yesterday. It is possible to be a better friend, child, sibling, workmate than you were yesterday because you have learnt from yesterday’s mistakes and you know what went wrong, how and why. Is that not the ultimate daily goal to be better than I was yesterday?
It’s important to take each day as it comes, not worrying much about tomorrow cause honestly God’s got this, He has it figured out to the “t”. It’s not easy but this is the road we decided to take so we sticking to it till the end. Dream big and most importantly put legs to what’s in your heart. Let your heart speak.
A Short Bio Of Nobuhle.
This is me, this is what I do, I love writing, I breathe writing…oh I also love crocheting, chocolate and coke 🙂 Visit my blog and let’s try put the puzzle together.
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